Weight Loss and Beauty, How Does Society React Towards Obesity?

Society has produced a nation of people in denial about weight loss and beauty. The media tries to convince the viewers that it's OK if you are a little on the heavy side. But in realty real life doesn't play out the way we see on TV.

The truth is that obese people will never be accepted as normal. People will almost never say it to your face, but the will show it with their actions. In many undercover stunts where a skinny celebrity goes under a transformation to look over weight, they get a huge eye opener! They become aware of the discrimination that fat people endure on a day to day bases.

The fact stands that when you walk into a room nobody is going to say "Wow, what a beautiful mind she has" or "She has such a great personality." If they say that the next thing is "but she's too overweight." That's because society in America is conditioned to hide or ignore the truth.

My mother studied in college for 8 years and got a masters degree. When she was doing her internship at a children's center she had been promised a job by the person in charge of the program there. In that time the person in charge left, and a new person came in charge. Although my mom had the qualifications and experience, they did not give her the job. She reminds me of this story all the time, and she always says that it happened because of jealousy, but I know it was because she was just too overweight. I only say that because she had applied for other jobs and when she would show up she would be turned down, even though she had all of the experience and qualifications they required.

At my heaviest I was about 312 lbs. I was totally oblivious to how people discriminated against me, because my family subconsciously taught me how to ignore the comments and treatments. You see when a person is very overweight they build up walls. This defense gives the person the permission to eat more and more till they become very obese and unhealthy. My family used pride as a defense against the looks and discrimination. At the time I didn't see what was going on, but when I finally lost some of the weight I was able to understand that I was using emotional walls to back people away, because I was so heavy. I used my own fabricated reasons to make excuses as to why I was so overweight. Let's see if any of these excuses are familiar to you

"I am fat because it's hereditary."

"It's in my DNA"

"I'm just big boned."

"People like me don't look good skinny."

"Healthy food is expensive."

"Healthy food taste nasty."

etc...

Whatever your excuse, it will never overshadow the fact that society will treat you a certain way if you are obese, or thin. I've been on both sides of the scale, and I must say I like being on the smaller side way better. I am in no way close to being at my best yet, but since I have lost some of the weight I've noticed a huge change in the way I'm am treated by people. Sometimes it's really good and sometimes it's really bad. 

For example, there are times when I might be on the NYC subway with my son and young girls give me a dirty look, because they assume I am his girlfriend! After losing some of the weight I look younger some how, and it causes women and girls to be envious of me. I know this, because I was actually told by a young girl one time. We where at the Department Of Motor Vehicles, because my son wanted to get his drivers license. He was still underage so I had to go with him. when it was his turn we both came up to the line, because I knew I had to sign something. 

The young lady behind the counter spoke to him very hastily when he asked "Where's your parent? You can't be here without your parent!" My son turned to me and said she's right here!

Although I was standing there the whole time, she didn't know I was his Mother. After she realized she said "Oh, I'm sorry, I thought she was your girlfriend." On the other side there have been times when it is a good thing, because I blend in well when I am with a younger crowd.

I take good care of my skin, exercise and drink lots of water, because It pays well to look good. They say beauty is in the EYES of the beholder, and that's why I make sure peoples eye's are beholding something pleasing. Your appearance is the first thing people will see when they meet you. Make sure they give you the respect you know you deserve. It's not vanity, it's called LOVING YOURSELF.